Prayer for Grown Ups

Prayer for Grown Ups

Discussion date: Thu, Oct 22, 2009 at our weekly Thursday evening practice

Dear Still Water Friends,

I received this Mary Oliver poem in an email this week and it led me to reflect on how dramatically mindfulness practice has changed my understanding of prayer.

In my growing up prayers were read or recited as part of a religous service, or occasionally at home. The prayers were traditional, a habit from the past. I never heard anyone in my circle, young or old, say that the prayers meant anything personal to them, or that they thought the prayers had any consequences.

To a young scientist – my high school identity – the prayers seemed like remnants of primitive superstition. My parents, despite their strong identification with their Jewish roots, seemed to have the same attitude toward prayer.

As a mindfulness practitioner, my conception changed. Rather than understanding prayer as a ill-founded custom of others, I began to see prayer as a of way of expressing and enlarging myself.

Sometimes, as Mary Oliver suggests, prayer takes the form of saying or writing a few words, expressing our gratitude for being alive, for being able to partake in the dance of life.

Sometimes prayer is sending our mindful energy out into the world with a hope or a wish. If being mindful of my breath can change my breath, and being mindful of my anger can transform my anger, then perhaps being mindful of my friend’s illness can in some small way help him to heal. Perhaps my awareness of suffering in Iraq can in some way bring healing there, too. This is the Buddhist meaning of karma: that every thought, spoken word, or action creates ripples in the pond. Whether we see the effects or not, the energy of our prayer has changed the world.

Sometimes, too, mindful prayer is not about words, hopes, or wishes, but about being so fully present to our lives that the separating ego melts and we see the world not with our eyes, but with universal eyes. We experience the wholeness and connectedness of all that is. We come home.

This Thursday, after our meditation period, we will write our own prayers and share our experiences and understanding of prayer.

You are invited to be with us. A related quote from Thich Nhat Hanh’s book The Energy of Prayer is below.

Warm wishes,

Mitchell Ratner
Senior Teacher

Praying as Spiritual Practice
by Thich Nhat Hanh from The Energy of Prayer

If we are practicing and we only pray for health, success, and good relationships, we are not yet an authentic practitioner. An authentic practitioner has to pray at a deeper level. We have to practice in such a way that in our daily life we are able to have insight into the interdependent nature of all beings. Our greatest desire as spiritual practitioners is to discover the essence of things and to be in touch with this essence. When this satisfaction is there, then whether we have very good health or poor health, we can still be happy. Whether we are successful or not successful in our work, whatever it is, we do not suffer. When our happiness is not dependent on our success or our health, we will be less likely to argue with others or make them suffer. Good relationships will be there quite naturally.

So, how is this kind of prayer different? It is different because of the level of our prayer. When we have been in touch with the ultimate dimension, with nirvana, when we have been in touch with God, then we can accept whatever happens in the here and now. We have already gone to the land of peace and joy and we do not need to suffer. Whether we have another ten years to live or five years to live makes no difference to us. At that point we have changed our way of seeing the world.

If we don’t pray and deepen our spiritual practice, we suffer intensely when we don’t have what we want in the world. But when we have been in touch with the essence, the suchness of all things, then it doesn’t matter if we don’t have what we want. Before, if we were not successful in what we wanted, we thought our whole life was a failure. But when we have been in touch with the ultimate dimension, then whether our temple or our practice center burns down, whether people smear our reputation, are jealous of us, or accuse us unjustly we can still smile and be peaceful and joyful as usual. What we thought to be success, what we thought to be the basis of our happy life, we do not need anymore. Because our happiness is already there in the ultimate dimension, it goes beyond all ideas of success and failure.


in: Dharma Topics
Discussion Date: Thu, Oct 22, 2009


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